It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light – Aristotle
The other day I was telling people that I have a blog. Obviously the next question is what it’s about. So I tell them that I write about self-improvement, personal development, and sometimes I discuss books I read. I’ve noticed once I explain this, I get about 25% positive responses, 25% indifferent, and 50% judgmental. I’m super motivated by the 25% who follow my page after what I tell them, and not because they’re interested in what I have to say, but because it typically means the person is open to learning and growing. They’re probably learning in a variety of ways and they’ve indicated to me that they’re someone who can help ME grow.
The 25% that are indifferent invoke no reaction in me, because I expect most of the population to not really care. Maybe I’m a pessimist, but I know for certain that most people are not living intentional lives, so how can I expect them to care about me being intentional in my blogging? I don’t spend much time considering their indifference for the sole reason that there’s nothing to consider in indifference.
So I move on to the 50% who seem slightly critical. Nobody has told me that I’m stupid for having a Facebook page, website, or blog directly yet. That being said about 50% of the people seem to kind of mock the idea. They’ll say things like “why should someone follow you?” or “all you do is discuss books?” or “OH, you’re going to be famous”. Of course the tone in which someone says this stuff matters, and I can pick up when someone is being critical rather than being curious. I’m still early enough in my blog that I’m trying to figure out if I did something wrong in how I described it, or if the topic is somewhat off-putting to most. Am I personally annoying? Is that the reason I get slightly mocked when discussing the topic?
I think the truth is that I’m not the most affable person in some cases, so that doesn’t help, but that’s not the majority of why people seem to mock the fact that I have a blog. I also think the topic of personal-development from someone like me is a bit off-putting, because I’m not a CEO of a big company or a famous life-coach. I’m just an average person who writes down things that have helped me grow. That being said, I don’t think this is the majority of why people seem to be mocking the idea of starting my website/blog.
I think the biggest reason why people seem to mock the idea of having a blog, website, facebook page, etc. is because they’re not the type of person who are interested in taking any risk in their lives, so it’s very foreign to them why anyone would do the same. They’ve lost the ability to be inspired! When they were children, they may have been big thinkers. They had dreams like we all did, and life has told them to be reasonable. I often ask the people who mock my admittedly huge financial, familial, and career goals what THEIR goals are. I have found that they often have NO goals, or they say something like “I just want to live a happy life”. At that point I have diagnosed that they’re criticism is likely not an issue in delivery, topic, or anything else that I’ve done. Their criticism is a problem with them. At that time the only thing I can think to say is that they shouldn’t follow my page if they don’t want to. I have limited time to sell an idea that others aren’t interested in pursuing. I know that their are billions of people who are like me, that crave stretch goals and are inspired by others like Elon Musk launching new rockets to outer space. There are plenty of others who are intentional about their day at work, and doing their job better each and every day.
I’m interested in you (the 25%), not them. I say this all the time, but I’d really love to hear more about your dreams and objectives. I want to hear about how you’re taking steps to reaching them. I want you to be able to brag to me. Relish in your accomplishments for just a few moments. I promise I won’t judge you, because I truly am inspired by you. If you don’t have someone in your life who you can say, I really feel like I’m making progress on X, Y, or Z, you need one. If you don’t have someone you can message me and I promise I personally will respond to you, because I’m always grateful for those that are a sounding board for me.
We all need to believe that we can do better, but at the same time take a moment to appreciate how far we’ve come. I hope this post has inspired you to forget the other 75% who are indifferent or negative in life and focus on becoming motivated and motivating others. Again, thanks for reading, and remember to contact me if you desire someone to bounce some ideas off of! Oh and remember to be great today!